According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Cher Finally Reveals the Truth About Her Iconic Hair—You Won’t Believe What She Said!
Cher is a legendary figure who’s been in the spotlight for decades, loved by many generations. Even at 76 years old, she’s still making headlines.
Recently, Cher shared some details about her appearance that might surprise some people.
Even now, Cher remains as popular as she was during the height of her career. She’s currently promoting her M.A.C. Cosmetics collection with rapper Saweetie. In a promotional interview for the cosmetics line, Cher made some interesting revelations.
One of the most recognizable features of Cher has always been her long, silky, jet-black hair. She’s made it clear that this is something she’ll never change. In the interview, she said, “Gray hair is fine for other girls, but I’m just not doing it.”
Over the years, the “Bang Bang (My Baby Shot Me Down)” singer has made many bold changes to her appearance, but one thing she insists on keeping the same is the black color of her hair. She just can’t imagine having any gray hair on her head.
The actress and singer has experimented with many haircuts and colors and has openly talked about using wigs to change her look. She said, “There’s nothing wrong with my hair, but I love wigs and always have.” She also mentioned, “They’re so low maintenance and make it easier to change my image.”
When it comes to the secret behind her timeless beauty, Cher believes it’s more about her mindset than any beauty product or treatment. She said, “You know what? You never stop being a girl. If you never stop being a girl, you’ll never get old.”
Cher doesn’t believe in dressing a certain way or avoiding certain makeup products just because of her age. She said, “It’s all about having fun,” and added, “People who worry about how someone puts on their makeup should get a life.”
In 2017, she did share that she loves taking care of her skin. She mentioned some of her favorite skincare products, like Dr. Barbara Sturm’s eye cream and face wash, Jan Marini products, and Proactiv.
Cher often talks about skincare and said, “My skincare routine is very eclectic. I don’t stick to one product; I just use things I love from different brands.” She believes “a little bit less is more” and now focuses more on skincare.
Whatever Cher is doing, it seems to be working because she looks fantastic. We’re sending her our best wishes!
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