According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
4 times Taylor Swift went makeup-free and looked flawless
Swifties, her devoted fan group, are well-known for her gorgeous makeup appearances in addition to her musical prowess and amorous exploits. Ever before her breakout single “Tim McGraw” reached the top of the Billboard charts in 2006, the singer has dabbled in a range of cosmetic appearances. In addition to lengthy lashes, Swift has also dabbled in pink tones, blue eyeliner, dark, smokey eyes, and cat eyes that are “sharp enough to kill a man.” Not to mention how flawlessly she’s worn every red lipstick. Have you ever pondered, though, how Taylor Swift looked by herself?
The star has openly admitted to have the reasonable but unwanted tendency of forgetting to remove her makeup, despite her appearing flawless beauty. In 2011, Swift told Allure, “I don’t always remember to remove my makeup. Alright, pretty much all the time.” The pop queen, though, appears just as stunning without makeup as she does when taking the stage at her sold-out gigs and appearing on TV.
paired with a grin
On January 22, 2019, Taylor Swift shared a carefree selfie wearing a denim jacket, lovely dirty blonde hair brushed to the side, and minimal makeup. She put a smile next to her “Cats” character, Bombalurina, with the proper hashtag, “Meow,” in the caption of the picture. Even without makeup, the celebrity had gorgeous eyes, full lips, and clear skin. With raised eyebrows and a slightly menacing appearance, this selfie radiates a dynamic feeling, which is enhanced by the absence of cosmetics.
Still, what can we say? You really are lovely.
On October 24, 2022, Taylor Swift demonstrated that makeup is not required to take a depressing photo, especially when she was announcing the release of her most current album. The musician, dressed in fairytale-inspired clothing, looked stunning without makeup, gazing off into the distance with her hair styled in a braided bun. The ad image’s description went on, “Midnight, such a famous and storied hour… This sparkling evening, I’ll be offering my personal interpretation of a well-known fable. Given the success of her “Midnights” album, this picture not only demonstrated Swift’s natural beauty but also her inner and outer brilliance.
True Swifties all know that Taylor Swift loves to look nice in sweaters, or should we say, cardigans. On October 24, 2018, the artist disclosed her love for turtlenecks—possibly more than her taste in makeup. The music diva flaunted her famous blond bangs and gorgeous blue eyes in a photo she took while sporting a black, form-fitting turtleneck. The post’s description joked, “Here we can observe an Australian swiftlet in her natural habitat, a turtleneck.” The subsequent images in the post showcase Swift experimenting in a natural Australian location, contributing to the grounded and organic vibe of the selfie.
Never go out of style
During the COVID-19 lockdowns, almost all active social media users posted at least one picture of themselves taken at home without makeup and captioned it with something about how bored they were. Following the trend, Taylor Swift shared a stunning makeup-free selfie on Instagram on April 27, 2020. She added, “Not a lot going on at the moment,” as the caption for the photo, her characteristic blond curls hanging just over her clavicle as she looked straight into the camera. Swift’s caption discussed the lockdown experience, but what really caught viewers off guard—or not—was how beautifully makeup-free Swift appeared.
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