Ryder’s 18th birthday should have been a memorable day, but his father’s absence left him feeling disappointed. Instead of celebrating with his son, his father chose to go on a fishing trip with friends, leaving Ryder devastated and questioning their relationship.
Growing up, Ryder’s life was normal until his parents started arguing when he was seven. By eight, his father was no longer living at home. Ryder vividly remembers his mother explaining the divorce, reassuring him that it wasn’t his fault. After the split, his mom worked hard as an elementary school teacher to provide for him, while his dad became more of a distant figure, often preoccupied with hobbies and weekends spent fishing.
As Ryder approached his 18th birthday, he hoped his father would finally prioritize him. He planned a small party with his mom and friends and even sent a message to his dad. When his father responded with: “I’ll try to be there”, Ryder felt a flicker of hope. However, on the big day, despite all the decorations and a cake baked by his mom, his father didn’t show up.
After waiting hours without any contact from his dad, Ryder called him, only to learn that he was still on the lake, seemingly indifferent to his son’s special day. Ryder felt crushed and hid in his room until his mom found him. He struggled to mask his disappointment, feeling invisible and unimportant.
A week later, his father called, offering to give Ryder a gift. Despite his anger, Ryder agreed to visit. When he arrived, his dad handed him a shiny fishing rod, a gift that felt more like a reminder of his absence than a thoughtful present. Ryder felt betrayed, realizing that his father would never truly prioritize him. When his dad invited him to join a fishing trip with friends, Ryder politely declined, knowing deep down that their relationship would never change.
As he left, holding the fishing rod, Ryder felt a shift within himself. He recognized he didn’t need to chase after someone who didn’t want to be there for him. In the months that followed, he focused on the people who truly cared—his mom and friends. He threw himself into music, practicing the guitar and helping his mom around the house to show his appreciation.
One evening, while washing dishes, his mom asked if he had heard from his father. Ryder shook his head, feeling at peace with his decision to stop waiting. His mom expressed sadness about their relationship, but Ryder reassured her that having her support was more than enough.
Over time, Ryder learned that his self-worth wasn’t dependent on his father’s attention. His experiences taught him an important lesson: sometimes, people won’t fulfill your expectations, and that’s okay. The fishing rod remains in his closet as a reminder not of what he lost, but of what he gained: self-respect, resilience, and the ability to move on from what he couldn’t change.
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Salma Hayek Pinault is a Mexican-American actress, producer, and director. She rose to fame in the late 1990s with her roles in films like Desperado and From Dusk Till Dawn. Hayek has since gone on to star in numerous movies, including Frida, for which she was nominated for an Academy Award. However, for a long time, she was blocked from acting in comedy movies, and recently, she explained why.
The actress wasn’t allowed to explore her comedic side because she was “too hot.”
Salma Hayek recently shared with the media that she had been kept from starring in comedies for nearly 2 decades by Hollywood because she was considered ’too hot’ for the genre. Despite appearing in romantic comedies like Fools Rush In and Breaking Up, she struggled to land roles in this genre: “I was typecast for a long time,” she says. “My entire life, I wanted to do comedy and people wouldn’t give me comedies. Not only are you not allowed to be smart, but you were not allowed to be funny in the ’90s.”
Thanks to Adam Sandler, she got her chance.
Salma mentioned that she was unable to get roles in traditional comedies until 2010’s Grown Ups, and that Adam Sandler gave her the opportunity to be funny in the film. However, she also noted that she was already in her forties by that time.
Salma Hayek played the role of Roxanne Chase-Feder in the movie. Roxanne is the wife of Lenny Feder, played by Adam Sandler. She is a caring mother and a supportive wife who helps Lenny navigate the challenges of parenting and adult life. Hayek’s performance in the film was praised for its warmth and humor.
Despite past regrets, Hayek is now happy to be where she is.
After being undermined and limited to certain types of roles for so long, Salma Hayek Pinault was able to let go and see the shallowness of that world. Although she was sad about it at the time, she is now doing every genre and is not focusing on the past. She says that she is now in a place where her appearance is not the only thing appreciated and that she has earned respect from people that really matter, so she feels seen beyond that.
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Preview photo credit ANGELA WEISS/AFP/East News, From Dusk Till Dawn / Dimension Films and co-producers
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