Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue actually wrote the marital handbook.
The long-married couple’s book, What Makes a Marriage Last: Insider Stories, contains personal facts about their marriage. Forty Well-Known Couples Share Their Secrets with Us.
The most fascinating revelation made by Marlo is that, even though she and Phil have been married for over 40 years, she never really wanted to get married.
The famous person expressed in the book her previously negative opinion of the institution, saying that marriage is like a vacuum cleaner that sucks away all of your ambition and vitality when you stick it to your ear.
Thomas frequently shares her opinions, likening marriage to having to placate a prisoner. That is, until she met Donahue.
Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas met following the dissolution of their first marriage, and they have remained lifelong friends ever since.
The Phil Donahue Show, which was eventually renamed as simply “Donahue,” was the vehicle through which Phil Donahue first gained popular recognition. For the first time, audience members participated in the program, which ran for 29 years. One of the visitors on his show who radically changed his life’s trajectory was Marlo Thomas.
The book claims that the two met in 1977 in Chicago, when Phil was bringing four children with him. His fifth child, a daughter, lived somewhere else with her mother and ex-wife.
Marlo and Phil dated for three years before being married in 1980 in front of a small wedding party of thirty-five guests.
Not surprise, Marlo’s friends and family were taken aback by the actress’s sudden change of heart. A hilarious story of Marlo’s bridal shower, where visitors hung notes from the soon-to-be bride that disclosed her past views on marriage, is featured in the couple’s book.
The book claims that Marlo’s mother was the most shocked of all, asking Donahue, “How did you get her to do this?” throughout the nuptials of the pair.
Reportedly, among other emotions, even total strangers voiced shock at the well-known social activist’s decision to get married. While Phil was in the lavatory, a passenger on the airplane the couple took to Greece for their honeymoon expressed displeasure to Marlo, presumably disappointed that she had given up her old independent streak.
In the book, Thomas is honest enough to acknowledge that something was unclear when they spoke. After all her life condemning marriage, was she suddenly a hypocrite for getting married? Had she let those down who held her in high regard as the embodiment of self-reliance?
Even though Donahue and Thomas discuss the usual ups and downs of their long marriage in the book, they manage to make their marriage work to this day. They describe these problems as teaching moments that deepened their relationship.
The couple had been apart from the beginning of their marriage, with Phil traveling to Chicago to tape his show and Marlo traveling to pursue her acting career.
Thomas had a greater understanding of how different individuals define marriage when his aunt said that the couple’s union was void because they weren’t living together exclusively. In spite of their separation, Thomas and Donahue were able to keep their marriage together. Significantly, Marlo’s marriage resulted in her having children.
In a 2012 interview with AARP, Thomas reflected on her experience helping Phil raise his kids, stating she went into it knowing that they already had a traditional mother and that would not be her role.
Rather, Marlo claims that she began to treat Phil’s children more like friends in an effort to mimic the parenting style of her own mother. She continues by saying that she feels more connected to them today than she did at the start of their marriage.
Donahue points out that Thomas really did strive to understand the lads in the book and spent as much time as she could getting to know his sons.
Phil and Marlo believe that their long marriage is a result of her strong bond with his kids and their mutual faith in each other. “You build trust when you realize that this person always has your back,” says Marlo in clarification.
Despite being married for more than 40 years, they still have more memories to make.
Phil goes on to argue that a marriage has to be desired by both parties in order for it to last. Marlo says she would never want to be anything other than married to her lover, echoing his sentiments. She claims that Donahue has assisted her “in every manner possible.”
When two people truly commit to one another, marriage is an incredibly lovely union that is made much more beautiful.
These two have a lot to teach and inspire us all. As satisfying as their relationship is, we should all strive to be in one!
My Best Friend Asked Me to Watch Her Kids for an Hour – I Didn’t See Her Again for 7 Years
Melanie agrees to watch her best friend’s kids for an hour, but she doesn’t return. Melanie files a missing person report and takes on the role of mother. Seven years later, a seaside encounter with a familiar face shatters the family’s newfound peace, reigniting old wounds and unresolved emotions.
I’m Melanie, and I want to tell you about the most significant day in my life. I had just gotten home from a grueling day at the office.
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All I wanted was to kick back with a glass of wine and lose myself in some cheesy rom-com. You know, the kind where you don’t have to think too hard, just laugh at the predictable plot and cry a little at the happy ending.
But life, as it often does, had other plans.
I was just about to hit play when there was a knock at the door. I wasn’t expecting anyone, so I hesitated, peeking through the peephole.
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To my surprise, it was Christina, my best friend. And she wasn’t alone. She had her two kids, Dylan, who was five, and baby Mike, barely two months old, bundled up in her arms.
“Melanie, I need your help,” she said, her voice trembling. “I have to see a doctor urgently. Can you watch the boys for an hour? Just an hour, I promise.”
Chris looked desperate, and honestly, it scared me. She was always the strong one, the one who had it all together. Seeing her like that, so vulnerable, was jarring.
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I felt a knot form in my stomach, but I couldn’t say no to her. How could I?
“Of course, Chris,” I said, trying to sound more confident than I felt. “Come in, let’s get you sorted.”
She handed me baby Mike and kissed Dylan on the forehead.
“I’ll be back soon,” she said, her eyes wide with an urgency I’d never seen before. And then she was gone, leaving me with two kids and a head full of questions.
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That hour turned into two. Then three. Night fell, and Chris still hadn’t returned.
I called her phone repeatedly, but it went straight to voicemail. The unease grew into full-blown panic. I put the boys to bed, trying to keep my worry from spilling over onto them.
Days passed with no word from Chris. I filed a missing person report, hoping the police could find her quickly. In the meantime, I was left to care for Dylan and Mike. Temporarily, I told myself. Just until Chris comes back.
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But she didn’t come back. Weeks turned into months, and the boys started to feel more like my own kids than Chris’s. They began calling me “Mom,” a habit that started naturally and felt strangely right.
The first time Dylan called me Mom was at his school’s parent-teacher meeting. He ran up to his friends and proudly introduced me, “This is my mom!”
My heart nearly burst. I knew then that I couldn’t just be their temporary guardian anymore.
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They needed stability, a real home, and someone who would be there for them always. So, I started the legal process to adopt them. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
Mike’s first steps were a cause for celebration, a moment of pure joy that we shared together. Dylan’s first soccer game, where he scored a goal and ran to me shouting, “Did you see that, Mom? Did you see?”
Those moments stitched us together as a family.
Fast forward seven years, and we went to a seaside town for vacation.
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The ocean breeze was refreshing, and the boys were laughing, carefree and happy. We walked along the shore, collecting shells and splashing in the waves. It was perfect.
Then, out of nowhere, Dylan froze. He pointed to a woman in the crowd.
“Is that her?” he asked, his voice shaking. I followed his gaze and felt my heart stop. It was Chris. Older, worn, but unmistakably Chris.
“Yes, it is,” I whispered, unable to believe my eyes.
Dylan didn’t wait.
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He took off running toward her, leaving Mike and me standing in the sand, our breaths caught in our throats. My heart pounded in my chest as I watched my son sprint towards the woman who had left him so long ago.
“Why did you leave us?” Dylan shouted, his voice carrying over the sound of the waves. “Do you know what you did? We waited for you! Mom waited for you!”
The woman turned, eyes wide with shock, but then her expression hardened.
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“You must have me confused with someone else,” she said, her voice flat and devoid of emotion. “I’m not who you think I am.”
Dylan stood his ground, tears streaming down his face. “LIAR! I DON’T CARE IF YOU PRETEND THAT YOU DON’T KNOW ME, OR SAY I’M CONFUSED! I KNOW THE TRUTH. YOU ARE NOT MY MOTHER, SHE IS!”
He turned then and pointed at me, his eyes burning with a fierce protectiveness that made my heart ache.
I walked over, holding Mike close.
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“Chris, would you say something, please? We deserve to know what happened,” I said.
But she turned away, staring out at the ocean with a face like stone.
I placed my hand on Dylan’s shoulder.
“Dylan, let’s go,” I said softly, but he shook his head, not done yet.
“When I grow up,” Dylan continued, his voice breaking but strong, “I’ll make a lot of money and buy my true mom a house and a car and do anything to make her smile! Because she deserves it! And you deserve to spend your whole life alone!”
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With that, he turned on his heel, leaving Chris—or whoever she claimed to be—standing there, stunned and silent.
We left the beach in silence, the weight of the encounter pressing down on us. The boys were quiet, their usual chatter replaced by the heavy silence of unresolved emotions.
There was no cheering the boys up as we headed to the hotel to check-in. It took a while, but eventually, we headed to our room.
I was relieved to get away from the beach, but the sight that greeted us wasn’t comforting.
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The bathroom was a mess, clearly untouched by housekeeping.
“Just what we need,” I muttered under my breath. I picked up the phone and called the front desk. “Hi, we just checked into room 212, and the bathroom hasn’t been cleaned. Can you send someone up, please?”
A few minutes later, there was a knock at the door. I opened it to find a cleaning lady standing there, her head down, face hidden by a worn-out cap.
“Come in,” I said, stepping aside.
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She moved slowly, deliberately, and something about her seemed familiar.
When she finally looked up, I gasped. It was Chris again!
“You’ve got to be kidding me!” I yelped.
“What are you doing here?” Dylan said, his voice a mix of disbelief and anger. “Are you following us?”
Chris—or Alice, as her name tag read—looked like she was about to collapse.
“I… I work here. I came to clean the bathroom,” she said, her voice barely above a whisper. “But now… I’m sorry, Melanie. I never meant for any of this to happen.”
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“I was desperate when I came to you that day,” she continued as tears ran down her face. “I’d sunk into a real dark place and I just… I couldn’t hold myself together anymore, let alone take care of two kids.”
“Then you should’ve asked for help,” I snapped. “I would’ve done anything I could…”
My voice trailed off as I stared into Chris’s eyes. The truth hit me like a truck: The woman I’d always thought was so strong had been struggling in secret, unwilling or unable to reach out for help.
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Her leaving the boys with me was the most she could do. It was her last, desperate attempt to save her children and herself. And it broke my heart.
“It never had to be this way, Chris.”
“There was no other option,” she replied, her voice heavy with regret.
Dylan’s face hardened, and he stepped in between Chris and me. He reached into his pocket and pulled out a dollar, pressing it into Chris’s hand.
“Don’t worry about the bathroom,” he said coldly. “We will clean it ourselves.”
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Chris stood there, tears welling up in her eyes, as Dylan shut the door in her face. He then turned to me, and I pulled him into a tight hug.
I held my boys close, comforting them as best I could. A part of me was grateful we’d run into Chris. We finally had some closure on why she did what she did, even if Dylan and Mike were too young to understand.
“Can we go home, Mom?” Dylan asked. “I don’t want to see her again.”
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We left within the hour.
Back home, life slowly returned to normal. The encounter with Chris became a past chapter, something we had faced and left behind.
We had survived abandonment, heartache, and uncertainty, but we had come out the other side stronger and more united than ever. Our family was a testament to the power of love and resilience, and as I watched my boys play, I knew we could face anything together.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.
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