It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
My Fiancée Lost Her Engagement Ring and Demanded That I Re-Propose, but the Whole Truth behind It Made Me Gasp
My Fiancée Lost Her Engagement Ring and Demanded That I Re-Propose, but the Whole Truth behind It Made Me Gasp
Jason’s meticulously planned engagement party took an unexpected turn when he revealed his fiancée’s deceitful act of pawning her engagement ring for a shopping spree. In front of friends and family, he exposed her betrayal and auctioned the ring for charity, reclaiming his dignity in a dramatic fashion.
Losing her engagement ring on that hike devastated Emily. She was a mess, and no amount of shopping therapy seemed to help. She bought a new purse and shoes, but I could still see the sadness in her eyes. It hurt me to see her like that, and I knew I had to do something.
A lost engagement ring | Source: Midjourney
Determined to make things right, I made a tough decision. My PlayStation had been my companion for years, but it was time to let it go. I decided to pawn it and use the money to buy a new ring for Emily. With a heavy heart, I drove to the pawn shop.
The shop was a small, cluttered place on a busy street. As I walked in, the bell above the door chimed. I took a deep breath and approached the counter. A middle-aged man with a friendly smile greeted me.
The owner of a pawn shop | Source: Midjourney
“Good afternoon. What can I do for you today?” he asked.
I placed my PlayStation on the counter. “I need to pawn this. I need the money to buy an engagement ring.”
He nodded, looking at me with sympathy. “I see. Let’s take a look.”
The pawn shop owner inspects a gamepad | Source: Midjourney
While he examined the PlayStation, my eyes wandered around the shop. And then I saw it. My heart skipped a beat. There, in the glass display case, was Emily’s engagement ring. I recognized it immediately—the intricate design, the tiny chip on the band. It was definitely hers.
“Excuse me,” I interrupted, pointing at the ring. “Where did you get that ring?”
Jason sees the ring | Source: Midjourney
The man glanced at the display case and then back at me. “Oh, that one? A young woman brought it in a few days ago. Said she needed the money for something urgent.”
My mind raced. Did someone steal Emily’s ring and pawn it here? But as the man continued to describe the woman, my heart sank. It was Emily.
Sad Jason | Source: Midjourney
Why would she pawn the ring and then ask me to buy a new one? Was she in trouble? My emotions swung wildly between confusion, betrayal, and anger. I needed answers.
“Can I see the ring?” I asked, my voice trembling.
Jason understands it was his ring | Source: Midjourney
The man handed it to me. Holding it in my hand, I felt a mix of nostalgia and heartbreak. I thanked him and promised to return with money to reclaim it. Leaving the pawn shop, I knew I had to confront Emily.
But a simple confrontation wasn’t enough. I wanted to teach her a lesson she’d never forget.
Jason tried to find a way confront Emily | Source: Midjourney
Back at home, I decided to play it cool. I acted like nothing had happened, going about our daily routines as usual. Meanwhile, I hatched a plan for the perfect revenge.
I began by planning a lavish surprise engagement party. I invited all our closest friends and family. I told everyone it was going to be a special night where I would re-propose to Emily with a new ring, explaining how we had lost the original one on a hike. Everyone was thrilled and eagerly anticipated the event.
Jason invites everyone to a party | Source: Midjourney
I was careful with the details, making sure everything was perfect. I wanted this to be a night Emily would never forget. I wanted her to feel the same shock and confusion I had felt at the pawn shop. It was a cruel plan, but in my anger, it felt justified.
The day of the party arrived, and everything was set. The house was decorated beautifully, and the guests started arriving. Emily was excited, thinking it was just a regular party. She had no idea what was coming.
Emily excited for her party | Source: Midjourney
As I looked around at our friends and family, all there to witness what they thought would be a magical moment, I felt a pang of guilt. But I pushed it aside. This was for Emily. She needed to understand the impact of her actions.
The moment arrived. I got down on one knee, holding the new ring in my hand. Emily’s eyes sparkled with surprise and joy. But I wasn’t done yet. The real surprise was yet to come.
Jason executes his plan | Source: Midjourney
As everyone gathered around, I took the stage with a microphone in hand. “Thank you all for coming,” I began, my voice steady and confident. “Tonight is a very special night. I want to share something important with all of you.”
I turned to Emily, who was smiling broadly, expecting a heartfelt proposal. “Six months ago, I proposed to you with a ring that symbolized my love and commitment. Recently, we thought that ring was lost during a hike. But tonight, I have a different story to tell.”
The ring in a pawn shop | Source: Midjourney
The room fell silent, the suspense building.
“I went to the pawn shop to sell my PlayStation so I could buy a new ring and re-propose. But to my shock, I found our original ring there. The pawn shop owner told me it was brought in by someone who needed money for something urgent.”
Checked and frightened Emily | Source: Midjourney
I paused, letting the words sink in. Emily’s smile faltered, confusion and fear flickering in her eyes.
“And that someone,” I continued, “was you.”
Gasps and murmurs spread through the crowd. Emily’s face turned pale.
Emily understands her secret is out | Source: Midjourney
“You pawned our engagement ring for a handbag and some shoes, then demanded I buy you a new one and re-propose. You didn’t think I would find out, did you?”
Her eyes widened, tears welling up, but I pressed on.
“So, tonight, instead of a re-proposal, I have something else planned.” I reached into my pocket and pulled out the engagement ring. “This ring is a symbol of trust and love. And it deserves to be with someone who truly understands its value.”
Jason auctions his ring | Source: Midjourney
I turned to the crowd. “I’ve decided to auction this ring tonight, right here. All proceeds will go to a charity that supports honesty and integrity.”
The room buzzed with shock and excitement as I handed the microphone to the auctioneer I had secretly hired for the night. Emily stood frozen, humiliated and speechless.
The auctioneer | Source: Midjourney
As the auctioneer began taking bids, I watched with satisfaction. The ring sold quickly, raising a substantial amount for charity. The room erupted in applause, and I felt a weight lift off my shoulders.
Jason talks to his friend | Source: Midjourney
After the auction, friends and family approached me with mixed reactions. Some were shocked, others were impressed by my bold move. My best friend, Mark, patted me on the back.
“Man, that was intense,” he said. “I can’t believe you pulled that off.”
I shrugged, trying to play it cool. “Had to do something. Couldn’t let it slide.”
Emily tries to win Jason back | Source: Midjourney
Emily, still standing off to the side, finally found her voice. She approached me, tears streaming down her face.
“Jason, I… I can’t believe you did this. Why didn’t you just talk to me?” she pleaded.
I looked at her, feeling a pang of guilt mixed with the lingering anger. “You lied to me, Emily. You pawned the ring and didn’t even think to tell me the truth. How could I trust you after that?”
Jason doesn’t want anything to do with Emily | Source: Midjourney
She sobbed, covering her face with her hands. “I was desperate. I made a mistake. I’m so sorry.”
I sighed, the reality of the situation settling in. “I needed you to understand the gravity of what you did. Trust isn’t something you can just throw away and expect to get back.”
Jason sits in an emptying restaurant | Source: Midjourney
The room began to empty as guests slowly left, whispering among themselves about the night’s events. I stood there, feeling a mix of relief and sorrow. It wasn’t the ending I had envisioned for us, but it was the one we had come to.
As the last guests left, I walked over to the charity representative to hand over the proceeds from the auction. “Here you go. I hope this helps,” I said, trying to focus on the positive outcome of the night.
Charity associate | Source: Midjourney
“Thank you, Jason. This will make a big difference,” she replied, taking the envelope with a warm smile.
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