As parents, we tend to teach our children to know right from wrong, but oftentimes, because of different reasons, we fail. One father learned that his daughter was bullying a girl who had cancer at school. Things went far and she even pulled the girl’s wig off. This made the father angry so he decided to take matters in his own hands and punished his daughter in a way that caused a stir, as well as mixed emotions, on the Internet. Since many slammed him for how he dealt with his bully daughter, the father later deleted the post.
“My ex-wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter together of which I have full custody (she has moved on with her new family)… My daughter recently got in trouble at school for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment. Including pulling off her wig,” he started his post.
“Apparently there is some pre-existing bad blood between the two of them, but I don’t think that even begins to excuse her behavior.”
As it turned out, his daughter was now dating this other girl’s ex-boyfriend and that was the reason why they weren’t fond of each other.
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t,” the father shared with CafeMom. “That’s what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”After he learned of what was going on and what his daughter did, he gave her two options to choose from in order to teach her a lesson. The first one was for him to throw all her electronics away, and the second one was for her to go to the hairdresser and get a bald haircut. The daughter chose the latter and went to school with a bald head.
“…Everyone thinks I went way overboard. Her mother went ballistic at me saying it will make her the target of bullying (kind of the point, teach her some compassion),” the father wrote.
He believed he did just the right thing, but not many agreed with him. A lot of people took their time to comment on the situation. One person wrote: “Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.’” Another person added: “There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
However, there were also those who praised his parenting. “I support your decision completely. You’re her parent so you have every right to do this, it’s not abusive, it’s real life. If she’s comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels,” someone in support of the father wrote.
“She will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson,” another supporter added.
So, what do you think? Do you believe the father went too far with the punishment? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.
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My grandson kicked me out of his wedding because of my ‘dress’. Karma hit back 5 minutes later.
The day of my grandson Justin’s wedding was one I had been looking forward to for months. I had meticulously chosen a dress that was elegant yet flattering, showcasing the results of a lifetime dedication to fitness. As a 72-year-old who still actively participates in sports, I was proud of my figure and wanted to feel glamorous for this special occasion.
However, as soon as I arrived at the venue, Justin’s face twisted in disapproval. He approached me, his tone harsh and his words cutting deep. “Grandma, what are you wearing? This is embarrassing for our family. You need to go home and change.”
My heart sank. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Was it so wrong for me to want to look feminine and feel beautiful at my grandson’s wedding? I had no intention of leaving or changing my dress, but Justin’s attitude made it clear I wasn’t welcome unless I complied. With a heavy heart, I decided I wouldn’t stay where I wasn’t appreciated. I informed him that not only would I not be returning today, but if he ever invited me to another event, I would wear the same dress.
The Unraveling
Just as I was grabbing my jacket, ready to walk out and never look back, my son – Justin’s father – rushed over to me, his face pale with urgency. “Mom, wait! You won’t believe what just happened. Justin, he…”
The words hung in the air as he struggled to catch his breath. Curiosity and concern made me pause. What could possibly have happened in the few moments since Justin humiliated me?
A Sudden Twist
We hurried back towards the main hall, where a scene of chaos had unfolded. Guests were murmuring, eyes wide with shock, and the air was thick with tension. As we pushed through the crowd, I saw Justin at the center of it all, looking pale and distressed.
It turned out that just moments after our confrontation, Justin’s bride, Emma, had called off the wedding. She had overheard his harsh words to me and decided that if he could treat his own grandmother with such disrespect, he wasn’t the man she wanted to marry. Emma’s decision sent shockwaves through the gathering, leaving Justin to face the immediate consequences of his actions.
The Lesson
Standing there amidst the stunned crowd, I felt a mix of emotions. Justin’s embarrassment was palpable, but there was also a sense of justice in the air. His behavior had consequences, and Emma’s bold decision had highlighted the importance of respect and kindness, values that should never be compromised.
Justin’s wedding day didn’t end as planned, this shook my grandson well. But perhaps it was a necessary wake-up call. As for me, I walked away with my head held high, confident in the knowledge that staying true to oneself and standing up for one’s dignity is always the right choice.
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